Saturday, March 3, 2012

Things That Go Bump In The Night

I have hesitated to write this post, even though many of my readers have asked me too, for many reasons, the most prominent one being most people are programmed from children to believe that things we can't see or feel aren't real. We are all born with this gift, but life and people change that for us, tell us it is wrong and to stop being silly. People go through life thinking those of us that feel, see or hear things are crazy. Ok, I will give you all the crazy part, but I am not crazy because I can see, hear and feel things that aren't there in your world. I can't see a micro organism but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. I can't see grief, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Yes, I know many of you are going to say "You only see these things because you want too". I can promise you that some of the things I  have seen are not something I want to see.


I belong to a professional ghost hunting team and have for many years. We have been interviewed, done clips and have had our work published. This is not a hobby for us, if it was we wouldn't have thousands of dollars in expensive equipment. I am certified and can also teach the paranormal. I even have a PhD in Metaphysics from a respected university. I am not a fortune teller so please don't write and ask me if Aunt Sally is going to get married someday.  I can at times see future events, just not predict them. Your guess is as good as mine, and mine would only be a guess. I don't do spells, I'm not a witch. I am not a demon from hell here to suck out your soul, although a few of my children may disagree with that one.

My very first experience, that I can remember, was at age 3 when I described in great detail to my parents a car accident that happened in front of a Florida gas station. According to my mother I was rather gory in details. A few days later this accident, exactly as I had described was all over the television and the newspapers.

At 4 yrs old the night a favorite uncle died my mother said I was agitated for hours and kept begging her to call my aunt to see if he was alright. Since he wasn't sick she thought I was just not wanting to go to bed and put me off. At 3am our phone rang, it was my aunt telling us my uncle had a major heart attack and died in his sleep. I told her he wasn't going to be alone. Two weeks later my grandfather died also.

I use to play with little girl named Robin, she always came outside and played in my sandbox with me. I always thought it strange that she chose to play in the sandbox in a dress while I wore shorts but I was only 6 so things like that are fleeting thoughts you quickly ignore. I kept telling my parents about my new friend. As we were new in the neighborhood they were very happy I had made a new friend so quickly. Until the day my mother had a conversation with Robin's mother and found out that Robin had been dead for 10 years. They showed me pictures of Robin, her two sisters and some cousins but didn't tell me who was who, I easily picked out Robin as my new friend.

This is very confusing for a small child, I was never sure who was real. But as small kids do I worked out a system. I just ask up front "Are you dead or alive", didn't matter to me, I played with anyone but I had learned not to talk about the dead ones to anyone. Those I kept to myself. This is what society does, it suppresses those natural gifts that children have.

I was a stubborn child, and I admit one that didn't always listen to what I was told so I kept my gift. I liked it and wasn't going to let anyone take it away from me. I was a happy bubbly kid and no one would have ever known by looking at me that I could see, hear and talk to the dead. The only regret I ever had was that I never developed the ability to make one appear when I wanted them to, still can't, I have to wait until they come to me. Sometimes they come at the most inopportune times. Sometimes they don't come alone, they bring others, they have a great desire to be heard and if they find someone who can hear them they can ramble like crazy. I have learned over the years to tune them in when I want and tune them out when I want.

Do they scare me? Not in the least. At least not the good ones. I have encountered very few "bad" ones over the years. As a matter of fact our team is dealing with one right now. My ghosts are usually just happy, just want to tell their story, pass a message on to someone they loved or just extremely nosy. As a rule they are not allowed to stay in my house for long, I send them away, they can come back and visit but not live here. I have made an exception for two of them. Johnny and Emma. Johnny talks from time to time but usually just likes hanging out with us. He also loves going for rides in the car with us. Emma has never talked except to tell me her name, and never leaves the house, but she is totally in love with my pug and I suspect the pug is the only reason she is here. Whatever room the pug is in that is where you will find Emma.

A little about our team. We have 14 members, all certified except three who are in training. Three of us are qualified to teach. We have investigated churches, businesses, private residences, battlefields, cemetery's, hospitals, asylums (yeah, I really don't like doing those!), abandoned buildings, police departments, fire halls, open fields and some of the famous "murder houses" you have all probably read about. All investigations are confidential, we never disclose where we are going or when, onlookers can impede the investigation and it's for our safety as well.  All clients sign contracts before an investigation, just as we do. We never charge for an investigation but we do ask for expenses if we have to travel more than 50 miles from our home office. Two members of our team are Police Officers, one member is a Federal Marshal(so yes, we are always highly armed when working), one member is a Paramedic, I am an RN, one member is a Priest, one member is Film Producer and one member is a Sound Engineer. My son just got his certification this past fall, his gifts are similar to mine. We also have three other teenagers in training who have about another year before they will certify. Each one of our gifts are a little different, but as a whole it works for us. At this time we do not advertise, it is all word of mouth. That may change in the future as we are considering putting up a web site.

Now a little about this weeks ghosts.

 I have a lady, someone's grandmother who will not leave me alone, she keeps wanting me to give messages to her grandson. The problem is she won't tell me who her grandson is and tells me to stop being stupid when I ask her.

I have a 16-20 yr old, sometimes age can be hard to determine, who has very obviously been in some kind of accident that keeps repeating "I'm sorry", over and over again. I don't know who she is or what she is sorry about and can't get her to say anything else.

I have one named Betty, who wants me to tell my nephew's wife she needs to do her dishes and to pick up the boots from in front of the doorway, that her house is a mess. I love this one and find her highly amusing.

My favorite at the moment are Edith and Carolina, they fight with each other like two old sore tailed cats. They fight about the proper way to plant roses, the proper way to iron shirts, who makes the best pies and on and on and on.

I have a little girl, about 8 yrs old, looking for her mother, she breaks my heart. I can't  help her because I don't know who her mother is. Strangely enough, my chihuahua, who hates every thing but me, loves her and gets so excited when she shows up.

I have a young woman who was a murder victim who wants to tell me all about the crime and the guy who did it.  A search of old newspapers in my town verified this murder, the man was caught and executed for the crime many years ago.

As I write this I have one chattering in my ear, sometimes I see them, sometimes I only hear them. I can see and hear her. She wants me to tell you about her, so I will just to shut her up. She is about 5'7" tall, wearing a blue flower print dress I'm guessing from the 40's or 50's, she has two children, both good students and her husband mows the grass every week (sometimes they tell the dumbest things but I guess to them it is important), she has a blue car but really wanted a flashy red one. She likes to bake brownies. She wants to know if I think her new bedspread is pretty (which by the way, I can't see) and she has a cat that sheds a lot but the kids like it so they keep it. She also says one of you readers know her and she wants you to know she is sorry she threw your book away.

So there you have it, I am crazy, but did you really doubt it?




25 comments:

  1. Wow !

    And no I don't think you're crazy, in fact you just got a whole lot more interesting and I hope you're going to write about this often.

    I've had a few 'experiences', I have actually written about a few of them (http://dirtycowgirl.blogspot.com/2011/10/samhain.html) - but nothing like you.
    I find these things fascinating.

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    1. I can't wait to read your experiences! Now that I have tested the waters, so to speak, I will write about more experiences, maybe post a few pictures. Actually I may post a few of those pics today.

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  2. Shea, of course you're crazy and that's why we love you.
    And when I say crazy, I mean in general and not in regards to spirits.

    I won't bore you with all the deals but spirits, good and damn right evil, have been a part of my life since I was 4 years old.

    Have you thought of doing a separate blog, about ghost-hunting?

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    1. See Lily, I knew I could count on you for believing in my craziness. In a normal world you and I would be sharing a room in some asylum somewhere.The world just hasn't caught up with us yet. Don't tell them, but I don't think Cowgirl and Monkey are far behind us....

      Are you serious? Bore me? This is what I do, I want to hear your stories. I want to hear all your stories everyone is telling me they have.

      I would of course, change the names, but I am someday considering writing a book of these stories.

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    2. LOL

      Yeah, and I can see your bums from here !

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  3. I'm with DCG, I want to hear more. While I can understand how it could drive you nuts with them chatting at you sometimes, I find it fascinating.

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    1. You can learn to turn most of them off, well except the one who likes to tell me how to cook and the one who constantly has messages for her grandson. I tell her to go she looks over her glasses at me, shakes her finger and just keeps on yakking. Cemeteries are awful for me, they all talk at the same time, they just want so badly to be heard and I have come to the conclusion that any manners they had in life they no longer have in death. No concept what so ever of waiting for their turn. Some are so sweet and I was very grateful for the lady yesterday that kept patting my back as we thought my pug was dying and saying "Don't worry honey, it really is going to be alright", she brought me comfort. Funny thing to me, I am a nurse and have seen death many times but I only remember one time seeing a patient of mine come to me. His was a horrific, shocking death and I think he knew I was not going to get over it and was even considering giving up my career over it, he came to tell me to stick with it that I would never have to see what I saw with him again. I never did.

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  4. This is AWESOME. I don't think the lady in the blue print dress means me. I can't wait to hear more about this.

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    1. I have no idea who the lady in the blue dress is, I usually don't know any of them. but she is still hanging around and insisting that someone reading this blog "belongs" to her. In their world belong can simply mean she knows the person or the person's family.

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  5. I agree, this is fantastic! I would love to read more about your experiences if you'd be willing to share them!

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    1. I have no problem sharing my experiences but I also love to hear about other experiences. Sometimes people don't even realize they have had an experience.

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  6. Just came in to say hi.. Me too... Tell us more. :))

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    1. Thanks for coming by and I hope you come back. I do think maybe I should do another blog with just this kind of stuff.

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  7. Ummm Seriously? Ghost Hunter?

    You just became the coolest fucking chick I know. That is AWESOME!!!!!!!

    I would love to do stuff like that. And people that don't believe in ghosts are assholes. Just ignore them and their petty comments meant to make you feel bad.

    And agree 100% with Lily - ghost hunting blog ghost hunting blog ghost hunting blog (that's chanting just sayin')

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    1. Damn it Bird I have always been cool! I don't let people who don't believe bother me and they don't in the least make me feel bad. What make me feel bad is when people think ghost hunters are like some of the idiots being shown on television right now or Dan Akroyd from "Ghost Busters". I think maybe a blog would be good, maybe dispel some of the myths of ghost hunting.

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  8. I wish I could see the things you see

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    1. Everyone has the ability Bird, you just have to learn to use it and to throw out all the preconceived notions that have been planted in your head since you were a child. You have to realize that a ghost can take on many forms, they don't always look like fully formed people (although most of mine do).

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  9. You know my mother also has these episodes where she knows someone is going to die before it happens. It's crazy. One day she was at home with my father and the phone rang and she told him his Grandpa died, and of course, it was a call tell him my great grandfather had passed. I think this stuff is incredible and awesome.

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    1. That is precognition, knowing something is going to happen before it does. It's never a one time thing and I bet she had other experiences too.

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  10. I don't think you're crazy! In fact, I think it's amazing that you can do this. I've lived in my house for only 3 months, and one night about two weeks ago I had, what I think to be, my first sight of a ghost. I woke up in the middle of the night to see something standing near my bed. I've seen these things before, but it always turns out to be something normal that looks different in the dark. I sat looking at this figure waiting for my eyes to adjust and realize that it's a normal object. Then my eyes did adjust, and I realized that it was the outline of a woman standing there. I was terrified and covered my face with my comforter like a little kid! When I finally had enough courage to look again, she was gone. So I just reached over to make sure Macho was there with me, cuddled up with him, and went back to sleep. Maybe I will see more of her in the future.

    Nicole

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    1. I think we have all scared ourselves to death with something that turns out to be normal. One time my ex louse came in from work in the middle of the night and threw a jacket over the back of a rocker in our bedroom and then sat his baseball cap on the top of it. I woke up later and saw it and just knew someone was sitting there watching me. I don't tolerate a ghost that wants to come and just stare, if you can't tell me why your here or at least talk to me then I am going to make you leave. I spent a good 10 minutes trying to "banish" that "ghost" before getting mad enough to turn the light on and seeing what it was. I felt like a fool. LOL Don't be afraid, they are not there to hurt you. Also covering your face isn't going to make a ghost go away and as for Macho they usually love dogs so he wasn't going to be much help either. If he was calm then you had a calm ghost. If she comes back, talk to her, that is usually all they want, to be recognized. Just tell her she is scaring you and ask her to leave, most will, they don't want to scare you.

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  11. So, I've always wondered this, but could never get a straight answer out of anyone. Where do you stand on why these appartitions are still wondering Earth. Is it some unresolved conflict in their life or something else?

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    1. I don't really have a firm stance because I believe they are here for many reasons, which is why no one has probably been able to give you a straight answer. Some, I feel, do have unfinished business, a message they need to pass on to someone and they look for someone open to them to get that message across. Unfortunately not all of them are good at letting you know who that message is for, ask questions, see if you can figure it out. Some of these are also looking for someone, a child, a husband, etc. they are confused (sometimes because of a violent or unexpected death) and don't really know what has happened so they are searching for people they know or answers. Some, and I find this to be the majority of mine, are just plain nosy, they aren't ready to give up on the things they know here yet so they come and observe, they want to see who is living in their house, who married their husband, what their grown children or grandchildren look like, etc. Then I feel some are "stuck" so to speak, this is called imprinting,these ghosts are the ones that will come at the same time every day/night and go through the same action everytime. For instance my nephew has one that shows up at his house every night at 3am, she comes in the front door, walks straight to the bathroom, turns the light on, turns the water on in the sink and washes her face, then dries her hands and face, turns the light out and then disappears into a bedroom. She does this everynight without fail. We did a little research and found out that his apartment building was built right beside where an old factory use to be that employed mostly woman during the war. One shift ended at 2 am, giving this woman time to clock out and walk to her apartment by 3am. We think this was probably her routine in life. Go to work, get off, come home, wash her face, change clothes and then go to bed. So she has imprinted and still does this night after night. Some come back to "play games", these are usually children, they mess with stuff, shutting door, opening cabinets, moving stuff around, etc. with the kids you will usually at some point hear them giggling or running through the house. I don't like dealing with kids because they don't mind any better in death than they do when alive, it's harder to get them to go away. So I don't think there is a clear answer.

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  12. It doesn't take much, but I'm confused. Is this the place to join?

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  13. On the main page, or the banner above, you will see the "join this site" button and that will let you join this blog.

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